Feel better now!
It is great that you have found this workshop, and I am looking forward to journey with you to a brighter place.
Everything I am suggesting here has been tested (and found working!) by myself and by numerous of my clients. Be gentle with yourself while you implement these changes, and know that they WILL help you to feel better.
To begin, let's look at some facts (always good to have a couple of those in-between all these emotions...):
WHY IS THIS ALL SO HARD?
If you were in a committed relationship, your man was a big part of your ’normal’. Now he is gone, and the comfortable, known routine is gone with him.
Your brain doesn't like this at all. What your brain (and body) like is something called Homeostasis, which basically means a state of being that is known and predictable.
When this state is gone, your brain goes into shock. Something that was part of your comfort zone is missing (it doesn't matter if the relationship wasn't comfortable at all, and if you were at each others throats all the time). It was known. And now it disappeared. Your head spins, you can't think straight anymore, you might even panic.
After you recover from the initial shock, you feel intense and sometimes overwhelming longing to have your partner back.
This doesn't happen because you have made a mistake when you got separated, or because he is the greatest guy in the world.
This happens because your brain wants homeostasis again, and pronto!
After a while, this longing will subside a bit. In it's place comes emptiness, sadness, anger. Your body is starting to realise that the old homeostasis can't be established again.
You are in limbo land (this is what I call the in-between stage between an ending and a new beginning).
THE QUICKEST WAY TO FEEL BETTER NOW IS TO ESTABLISH NEW ROUTINES.
Your body and brain will cling to them, relieved to have something stable and predictable again.
It is such a great time to get started with things that are good for you. And this workshop will help you to do so!
Here are some new habits to develop now:
1. NO CONTACT WITH YOUR EX!
Yes, I know it is hard. I also know that you have good reasons why you need to contact him. I have probably heard them before. But please don't do it! You just end up hurting yourself. Read more on this here.
2. GO FOR A WALK EVERY DAY.
This gives you a different perspective. It gets you out of the house, it helps your blood circulating, and the birds have a chance to sing you a song (did you know that birds adept their song depending on the vibration of the person walking past? They provide you with what is missing in your energy field.
And if you want to find out other ways in which our animal friends are supporting you, take this test.
3. TAKE YOUR BROKEN HEART, AND TURN IT INTO ART.
Now is a great time to get creative. You are so open right now, and the veils are so thin because you are so much more sensitive and aware. Write, paint, sing, cook. Don't attempt to create a master piece. Instead, let your pain flow into something else, transforming it in the process.
4. LEAN ON YOUR FRIENDS and/or family.
Remember our first point? Not contacting your ex is so much easier if you have a friend you can call instead whenever you feel the urge to get in touch with him. There are people who love you just as you are. Talk, cry, go to the movies... All of this will help to make the pain a bit easier to handle.
Hang in there darling! I am sending you so much love.
Get started with the 4 things in this intro module, and reach out if you want one-on-one support.