How to get off the downward spiral

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What do you do when you feel like Lucy looks in this pic?

Sad? Down? Exhausted? Like hiding from the world?

I used to do ‘something nice’. Often this meant taking time off. Treating myself in some way. Or watching endless hours of Netflix.

This had a similar effect as a sedative. I felt vaguely better while doing it. Mainly, I felt numb. The pain was removed. I was zonked out…

When I switched the light off at night I had big plans for the next day.

I would tackle this shit!

I would get out of this hole!

I would turn my life around, totally, and feel on top of things.

And in control.

And look fabulous in the process!

Then I woke the next day and the same pattern continued… 

Of course, these ‘bad’ days didn’t last forever. I would ultimately get to the point where I had more energy again, where I stopped scrolling through Instagram, and instead did some actual work. Things would flow along smoothly for a while.

Until the morning I felt the dreaded heaviness again, ignored what I had planned and got sucked back into the big numb.

Why am I telling you all this?

Because today is that day that would have started me on the downward spiral not too long ago. 

I could feel it on waking up. The blah feeling. Slighly depressed. Slightly down. Tired. 

Plus, it’s a Saturday. Plus, there is some difficult stuff going on in my family. I have ‘good’ reasons for feeling this way…

For a second there (ok ok , for a minute), I considered ‘giving in’. It was SO tempting! 

And would have been so easy.

But then I remembered that I committed to showing up, every day, no matter what. 

And so I sit here and try to use what is happening as fuel. 

It was slow going in the beginning, but 30 minutes and 300 words after sitting down I feel So. Much. Better. already. 

30 minutes!!! 

To get out of a cycle that would have consumed the next 5 days of my life, if I would have let it run it’s course.

That would have meant that I wouldn’t have exercised either, because why bother.

It would have probably meant that I would have stopped eating well. 

AND it would have meant that by the time my mood lifts I would have slid down quite a long way on this mountain I have been climbing forever…

No wonder that I never got to see the views from the top. Never discovered that, yes, there are other terrains I can see from here that look really interesting!

Never realised that while it might be a law of nature that everything has cycles, I don’t have to give in to them. 

I don’t need to dive deep into the WHY of feeling this way.

I don’t need to accept it. 

Instead all it takes to turn the tide (to mix my metaphors a bit) are 30 minutes of sitting my ass in the chair and doing what I said I would do. Even though its Saturday and cold and grey outside. Even though I am currently sad.

As a disclaimer, I am not saying that this applies if you’re truly depressed. But it definitely works with the normal waxing and waning of emotions.

Doing the work you know you’re meant to do, even if you don’t feel like it, WILL snap you out of your funk.

Who is this person you would like to become?

What are her daily actions?

Do them now, no matter what, and you will BE her in no time!


Doing what matters, daily

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Here I am, in the dark, at quarter to 6 in the morning. Keeping my promise to write first thing, daily. Proud of myself despite the yawning.

Today’s message - How to show up

Of course you know how to do that. Everybody does, if they’re honest with themselves. But we don’t always do. It’s painful. It takes follow through. 

What really, really helps is to make showing up a non-negotiable. 

Meaning you just do it. 

You’ve decided that this is what it will take, for you. So you show up without questioning it every time. 

Takes a lot less energy this way…

I imagine going to a job is like this. You know you’ve gotta do it, so you do. No matter how you feel, no matter if it’s dark outside, or you’re tired, or it’s raining. 

You just do. 

Being there for your own dream can be the same. 

There is a lot of beauty in discipline. Although this is often an acquired taste, one whose value is seen only later in life. 

At least it was like this for me. There are some areas I have always been disciplined in:

Brushing my teeth, walking the dogs, keeping my place beautiful. 

Showing up as a mom. 

And now, finally, writing. 

Sitting my ass in the chair and putting my fingers on the keys and letting it flow. If it does flow. And if nothing flows then too. 


Because I am dedicated to what can be born through me. Leaving a legacy. Doing something that lasts longer than I do. Honing and shaping my craft, to allow the art to flow. 

Something in me knows that this is a worthwhile pursuit. And so here I sit.

I trust that, over time, it will get easier. Flow better. The sentences more elegant, the writing more fluid, the right words presenting themselves more eagerly.

And of course, that the channels unblock, and that the downloads I will get when I keep showing up for them are something that inspires, uplifts, heals, enlightens, brings comfort and truth and joy and hope. 

That I bring through great truths, and that ‘my’ people, the ones whose questions the message answers, the ones who called it forth, will find it and will read it and will love it. 

Will look forward to it, daily. 

Will use my words to change their own life. Use my own tenacity as a guiding light to what they themselves can also do.

Change their life, take charge, do the things they up ‘til now only occasionally dreamed of. Let their own message out. Sing their own song. Start becoming the realized version of all that they can be. 

How about you?

What is it you could show up for? What is shining through? Which gifts are there to be set free within? Why did you come?

What is your message?

What is your Calling?

You know already, and I guess you know the way there, too. Showing up for it. Making it a non-negotiable. Using discipline and trust and dedication. 

Do it, it is so SO worth it, even if nobody else ever sees or acknowledges or reads it. Your art WANTS to be born. 

And it wants to be born through you. 

This is why you came my love. 

And this is all you have to do to feel fulfilled. 


The 5 steps of deliberate creation

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Look around you!

Really, look!

Anything you see, any plant, any animal, the sun, the earth, the moon, they all FIT. It’s all figured out, it all flows, it all functions, it all WORKS!

So why are we humans so often so confused?

So serious

So tense

So lost and so lonely and so without what we long for?

It’s not necessary darling.

You don’t have to fight, to suffer, to pay for who you are, and what you desire.

Get clear, turn within, and do what you came here to do:

Consciously, Deliberately Create!

Yes you fucking can!

It’s your purpose, its your calling, its your super power!

You get there first on the inside

- and then the world shifts around you and re-arranges itself!

Stop asking yourself how to get from here to there. In doing so, you keep on reaffirming that you are not there yet.

And then, guess what, you’re not there yet!

There is a place for strategies, and there definitely is a place for action, but you’ve gotta jump FIRST!

Be this person NOW.

The one who is on purpose. Who is confident. Who knows her way.

And please don’t ask again and again and again for the same things.

Every time you do, you make it clear to yourself that you’re not there yet, that there is a gap between you and where you want to go.

This gap doesn’t exist unless you put it there.

Like everything else in creation, all you have to do to find your place is to trust in your own inherently perfect nature.

And then act from there!

If you would like a more structured approach, here is a video going step-by-step into what to do to bring in what you want:


Here is the link i speak about in the video

Sending you love


Follow your excitement

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‘You can’t create the new while giving your power away to the old.’

Hey sweets

Would you like to know how to get out of feeling stuck, blah, uninspired, bored?

By trusting, blindly, totally, in what excites you!

Excitement is your guiding light. 

Your North star. 

It leads you away from the familiar, and allows you to set sail and leave the safety of the shore behind. 

Your excitement is THE WAY! 


Because you only get truly excited by something that belongs to who you truly are! 

When something excites you, it cuts straight through the ‘been there, done that, have the t-shirt’ attitude to life.

There is a tremendous surge of energy when you release this kind of stale, blah vibe. 

It feels fresh. It feels invigorating. It feels, EXCITING! 

You have broken your attachment to who you thought you are.

And the way forward is wide open, and powerfully fresh and new! 

So, all you have to do to get out of any funk, any 'I don't know what to do', any 'What's my purpose?', any 'I'm so stuck!'. is to find something, ANYTHING, that excites you even a little bit. 

No matter what it is. 

And then you do it.

And when the charge has left, you find the next exciting thing. 

Excitement is like breadcrumbs on the path to your destiny. Find it, follow it, soak it up. 

Allow it to lift your vibration, and to remind you of who you truly are!

Anything that excites you, no matter how small, is directly connected to your bigger purpose. 

You can absolutely trust it!

Which gives you such an easy compass, no matter where you are, no matter what you're doing. 

Find and follow your excitement and you're good, always!

What totally excites me right now is the ALCHEMIST’S Adventure!


I just finished all the content, and it’s the most powerful program I have ever created!

As the tag line says, it will guide you to ‘Trust your Calling, remember your Power, and get paid for being YOU!

Before you came here, you had a dream. A vision of what you would do, a powerful desire that drove you to incarnate yet again. 

Yes, it has been buried over the course of your years on this planet. And yet, even from beneath all the conventions, the fitting in, the being well behaved and hard working and just fucking realistic, you can still feel it’s call. 

You came here as a deliberate creator of WHATEVER it is that takes your fancy. 

You are God incarnate. 

And a part of you still knows that. 

By going through the Alchemist’s Adventure, you will re-connect to this version of yourself. 

The one that KNOWS who you are. 

That has no doubt about your abilities. 

That is confident and certain and doesn’t ask for permission. 

That knows that you, just like any other being in nature, is meant to thrive and be supported just for being YOU! 

That knows how magnetic you become when you trust in yourself and your Calling.

That is very clear on how reality creation works, and that does so deliberately.

Stepping into your full power is totally simple, but it’s not always easy. 

It takes releasing pre-conceived notions about who you are, and how life works. 

It takes daily connecting to your higher self, allowing guidance in, and then following this guidance. 

It takes letting go of the old, to experience the new. 

It takes creating new habits and doing the work.

And it takes seeing yourself in a different, empowered, magnificent light!

Which is why the Alchemist’s Adventure is a 40-day long process, leading you one step at a time to FREEDOM.

I am so convinced that this stuff works, and that everybody should know this, that I would love to give it all away for free. But my daughter wants to buy clothes. I want to travel. And Lucy wants to EAT! 

So I won't.

But come along anyway!

Lots of love


Embrace your Calling

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You came here, why?

You used to know exactly why when you were small.

Which big dreams did you hold? What was normal back then? What did you know you would do and become and just BE?

Before it got trained out of you by people who had forgotten their own mission. Who wanted the best for you, in the way they thought the best had to come. Who wanted you save, and relatable. 

Who didn’t want you sticking your head out too much, being too different, being too odd…

It is uncomfortable going places with an odd child. One who is confident, knows who she is, is vocal about it. Children are so good anyway at telling it like it is. Add to that some determination and cockiness and you’ve got a lot of embarassing situations in your future as a parent. 

Plus, you ARE small and you don’t know that cars can run over you and the stove is hot and the knife is sharp and you might drown in the ocean. So parents are careful, for you, about you.

All of this leads to you becoming careful yourself.

Being complacent. Dialing it down. Dialing it down some more. Dialing it down so far that you can’t hear yourself anymore, and that you instead join the same circles everybody else wanders around in. 

Who am I?

Why am I here?

What’s my purpose?

What’s the point?

Some of us always know that this is not how life’s supposed to be. And yet they can’t access the ‘Other’ hidden somewhere within. 

And still you’re drawn by your purpose, like a moth to a flame.

You don’t really want to go. Your conditioning is strong, and you’re afraid that, just like the moth, you’ll burn. 

So you go one step forward and two steps back. You make excuses. You listen to your fear. You say you don’t know what you want, why you came. 

And yet it keeps calling you….

And then, one day, it finds a way in. You allowed yourself to connect. Maybe through sitting in silence. Maybe through a deep, honest conversation. Maybe through journaling without censoring. 

In any case, you’ve had a glimpse. It flowed. It felt so good. It exploded out of you, you had the right words, you knew it made sense, you knew there was something so connected, so familiar, so alive about all of this. 

And you wanted more!

But there was still so much split energy. Yes, this was amazing and powerful and totally cool, but you have to do REAL LIFE too! Real life is a struggle. Real life isn’t all fun and roses. Real life is haaaaaaard….

For a while, you oscillate. The pressure builds with that. Real life feels more and more uncomfortable. Exhausting. Plain old wrong. You are constantly torn.

Now you’ve got a choice: 

You can drop the dream, the connectedness, the flow

Or you embrace it and allow for all you’ve been taught to be wrong. 

This isn’t an easy decision. There is safety in the familiar. There is value in it too. Being like everybody else means you fit in. You are relateable. You are one of ‘them’.

The new, while exciting, is also scary. There are not that many examples of people who live from flow. It takes total trust in who you are. Total trust that you are made perfectly for what you came here to explore, to contribute, to give. 

And then being this YOU fully, beYOUtifully!

No pretense. 

No lies.

No excuses.

No fitting in.

This is a tough order. Especially when you’ve been here before. Especially when you’ve been different before. 

Being burned at the stake. Being driven out of town. Being fed to the lions. Being hanged and laughed at and shuned and thrown out of the tribe….

This stuff is deeply embedded in your cellular memory. Your cells want to live. Your body wants to live. 

But your soul wants to live too. 

You came here with a Calling.

With something that you are meant to bring through.

To share.

To contribute.

To shine in.

To inspire through.

To liberate with.

This Calling, if it is strong, has a powerful, powerful energy.

It won’t allow you to forget, to go into conformity and oblivion. 

It wants out.

It wants to live.

And fulfill itself through you.

All you ever wanted in your life will come to you through what you’re meant to do. 

Basically, it comes to you through you being who you are. 

Expressing it.

Letting it the fuck out!

Once you know you HAVE a mission,

You’ve gotta EMBRACE it

And then you ACE it!

The transformation you know you’re here to inspire

The lifestyle you want to live

The impact

The money you want

All of this comes with you finally expressing Who You Truly Are!

Once you’ve practised connecting, letting it flow, it becomes scarily easy. 

For example, I haven’t stopped once while writing this text. Sat down, put my fingers on the keyboard, connected, and let it out. No thinking required. No hard work needed. 

30 minutes later here we are. I haven’t read through it but I know that it feels RIGHT. Connected. Aligned. In Flow. 

It is just a natural extension of who I am, flowing through me out onto the page. 

It feels good.

And it feels easy to do.

This used to scare me into dismissing what I wrote. 

I have pages and pages and pages of flow writing I never published, never looked at again. 

Just recently I read through some stuff I have written over a ‘I’m just going to do this now every morning’ period, when the push of my Calling got too strong to ignore. It is great stuff!

It truly flows. 

It’s deep.

It’s even occasionally funny.

It has it’s on rhythm.

In short, I love it!

What’s your thing that comes so easily when you are connected to soul?

Do you make beautiful music? Do you paint? Do you write? Are you a dancer? Do you cook the most delicious meals out of whatever is in your fridge?

I fully believe we all have our thing. What it takes to bring it out is for you to be yourself. To trust that who you are, what you were given, what you have access to, is enough, is valuable, is right, is perfect, is why you came!

Do you believe that?

Can you allow it to come out?

Can you allow it to be easy to be you, to do you?

This is were the true richness and sweetness of life is found. The absolute RIGHTness. The Why-you-came-ness. The gift you have to give. 

Don’t let it go to waste darling.

Breathe, connect, and let it through. 

Yes, it will be clunky in the beginning. Like everything else, accessing your gifts and becoming a channel gets easier with practice. 

Commit to who you are!

Connect with it.

Allow it to flow through you, every single day. 

And feel the incredible sweetness of being who you truly are!

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